Ask someone for their advice. What will you get? A person more than happy to give it to you! People LOVE to give advice and opinions. Think about how you feel whenever someone asks you for advice. How does it make you feel? Flattered! We all love to share our opinions and give advice to listening ears.
As someone who prides himself on gathering wisdom from others, this made me wonder:
What is some of the best advice that I’ve ever heard?
Here’s one that I think can be life-changing for you.
Problems are Questions
I was listening to Tony Robbins one day and he said something that I had never considered before. Here’s what it was (I’m paraphrasing):
When someone comes to you with a problem, ask them this: What’s the question?
At first, just like the rest of his audience that day, I was confused. Maybe you are, too. You’re probably wondering why I think that is one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard. But stay with me.
Tony went on to explain that, behind every problem is a deeper issue. That issue is always attached to a question. I think he’s right. Let me give an example to illustrate.
Let’s say that you have a friend who is struggling to lose weight. Your friend is always complaining about this problem to you. Imagine that, the next time this happens, you respond with, “So, what is your question?” Most likely, she would say something like, “I don’t have a question! I’m telling you about my problem!” Right? Its probably what you would say too. But let’s unpack this a bit more.
There really is a question in that stated problem, isn’t there? The question, if you think about it closely enough, could be, “How, exactly, do I lose weight?” Or, “What are some ways that I can try to cut back on calorie intake while increasing my exercise?” You get the point. The question being posed is really about how to lose weight.
This is why this is so brilliant and such great advice.
Whenever we (or our friends) get stuck, we need to find a way to not just complain but to actually move towards some sort of resolution or help. When we stay stuck in the statement of a problem, we never really address the core issue. By taking the problem and moving it into a clearer question, we can finally address the real issue at hand and determine an appropriate plan of action.
Think about this in your own life.
What are some problems that you’re dealing with today? Write them down.
Now ask yourself, “What’s the question?” Then write down possible questions to the real issue you’re dealing with.
Lastly, who do you know (in real life or through a book, YouTube video, blog, etc) who has been through this same problem that could help you answer and address that question? (Check out some ideas here.)
Try this and see what you think. If you do, you will find that this simple piece of advice may be one of the best that you have ever heard!
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